Dating tips for overweight women
The internet is full of stories about women being horrifically fat-shamed or harassed on dating sites, and yes, those stories need to be told. And at a certain point, I think they can become inadvertent scare tactics, frightening plus-sized women out of the dating pool.So, I reached out to Marie Southard Ospina, journalist, style blogger, and beloved bad-ass of the body positive movement.I love Netflix and whatever as much as the next girl, sure -- but I also love art galleries and movie theaters and poetry readings!And yes, I even enjoy going out for a good meal if you can manage not to make a big deal out of it.Man, they really drill in the message early with this nonsense: Maybe that’s why dating as an adult so often feels like a class we’re flunking. With rare exception, dating is considered a pain in the ass, but a necessary hurdle if you want to advance to the next romantic level.And when you’re plus-sized (or if your appearance doesn’t conform to mainstream beauty standards in other ways), dating can seem fraught with even more challenges.It’s not a level playing field, and there’s no point pretending it is.
The last time I stressed out over this alleged holiday was in fifth grade, when the printer ran out of ink in the middle of printing cards for my classmates.They often come into a relationship believing that my past partners have been abusive or unfaithful, or that my current partner isn't interested in sex and that's why we're poly.Basically, that he's arrived to save me from my terrible, sad, fat life.If there's an attraction between us, you'll know it, and whatever desires that sparks, let's talk about them.Don't just assume I'm all in because I'm sex-positive, fat, and sometimes femme.